There are numerous reasons why you might be having a difficult time finding the right job, and many of them are out of your control. A soft job market and the fact that you remind your prospective employer of her ex, are two that you cannot do much about.
However, there are important factors and strategies within your control that need your attention in order to maximize your job search efforts. Consider the following questions to determine if you might be undermining your own success. By taking these steps, you might reverse your pattern and realize your goal.
1. Do you present yourself in a professional way?
Research shows that people make an initial impression in the first 30 seconds. Give some thought to what you'll wear before your interview and make sure it's been recently pressed and laundered. Appear well groomed and you may get an invitation for a second interview; give little thought to how you look and you're not likely to return.
2. Are your résumé and cover letter tailored to the specific job and skill requirements?
It's not that you need to rewrite a different résumé for each job, however, it is important that your résumé presents important key words that appear in the job posting. While your résumé can be tweaked for each job, your cover letter should be customized and fresh each time you apply for a job. Cite requirements and examples of when you have demonstrated them and say how you are qualified rather than why you are so interested in the job.
3. Do you consistently follow through?
A thank you, whether or hand written or Emailed, can be a determining factor in whether or not you are invited for a second interview. After the initial interview, ask for the person's business card so you'll have what you need to accurately follow up. Mention something that was said during the interview as well as remind him or her about why you are confident that you are the right person for the job.
4. Is your job search strategy diversified?
While looking for jobs online is convenient, it is not effective as your only strategy. Limit yourself to an hour or so per day for online searches. The majority of your time and effort should be on networking and informational interviewing to uncover job leads and prospects or to speak with individuals to determine what you want to do next.
5. Do you indulge in negative thinking?
Transitions provide fertile ground for fear to grow. Where there is fear there is worry and negative thinking—neither of which will support you in your job search. Stay focused on the outcome you desire and resist the tendency to deal with the unknown by conjuring up negative "what if" scenarios. They will only raise your anxiety and hinder your ability to put your best foot forward. Stay positive and be open to support from others.