1. Shift Your Catastrophic Thinking and Expect Good Things.
Waiting for an outcome is difficult. It’s the in-between time that has you conjure up “what if” scenarios that serve no purpose at all. You may think you need to plan out all possibilities in order to be prepared for anything—an impossible task when you really consider it. Plus, in trying to cover all the bases, you’re likely to imagine only negative possibilities that raise your anxiety and add more stress to your situation.
Why not ponder and expect the outcome you truly desire rather than some result you dread? This shift only requires awareness of your thoughts and the ability to clearly identify your true goal. It may take several attempts to shift your thought pattern from negative outcomes to those that truly reflect your goal, but you should notice an immediate feeling of relief when you imagine a positive, rather than a negative expectation.
2. Focus Time and Attention on Things You Can Control.
Be efficient and avoid wasting energy on trying to change people or things beyond your scope of control. When you focus on your own thoughts and behaviors and consider what you can do to move closer to your goals, you are assured of better success.
3. Let Go of When and How You Might Achieve Your Goal.
Typically, there’s an element of surrender in the process of achieving a certain outcome or desired goal. While you might like to predict the process from beginning to end, it’s just not possible since most outcomes involve other people and events—all of which have their own timeframes. Keep your focus on what it is you want, rather than on when or exactly how you’ll achieve it and be open to possibilities you had not imagined.
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This 3 step strategy is helpful - it's a challenge to "surrender" to the how and when sometimes, so thanks for the reminder! Also love the addition of in-person workshops!
Posted by Kate
You're right, Kate. It's often the biggest challenge to let go and trust. Focusing on the "what" of your vision will keep your mind occupied as a diversion from the "how"...
Posted by BarbaraMy only question concerns timing?
When a prospective employer tells you that your experience and background is still being considered for a "soon to be available position"--how much time should you give him or her? I've found this happening a lot lately in my search for work. I constantly check back to see if the candidate has been found...and I'm put "on hold" a little longer. 3 or 4 weeks later, I receive a generic letter that states the position (or job) has been filled.
Posted by gary
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